Imagine this situation: Let's say I applied for a job position and didn't get thru or I didn't make it to some top university despite putting in a lot of effort. I surely would have heard a friend or parents / elders consoling me with words like 'Don't worry, it wasn't destined that you would make it here' OR 'It's all planned and something better awaits you'.
But wait!!! Didn't the same friend/elder tell me (while I was preparing for this very job interview/exam) that one can make his own path; that destiny and best efforts are always rewarded and you would make it.
So what happened suddenly? Didn't I put in my best or did destiny take a last minute U-turn? Why does this dichotomy of belief exist? Are we/others consoling ourselves? Am I being the ostrich and not facing up to reality? Would I call it destiny or my own efforts had I instead been successful? Am I being fatalistic here? Was I not good enough to shape my own destiny?
I wonder many a time why I do the above and try to interpret the consequences or the actions?
The answer to this in my opinion, is two fold. First we are all human and it is natural to be subject to a plethora of emotions and such thoughts. At the same time, are we taking a hard look at effort and then objectively looking at the consequence? Maybe that's what is needed. It's a mind vs. heart thing when it comes to reflecting and looking back at such stuff.
If that happens and can be done consistently, there will probably be no slowdowns...no U-turns...only drive-aheads with an extremely clear rear view mirror.
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